Learn the Meanings

They used to use urine to tan animal skins, so families used to all pee in a pot & then once a day it was taken & Sold to the tannery…….if you had to do this to survive you were “Piss Poor”
But worse than that were the really poor folk who couldn’t even afford to buy a pot……they “didn’t have a pot to piss in” & were the lowest of the low. The next time you are washing your hands and complain because the water temperature isn’t just how you like it, think about how things used to be.

Here are some facts about the 1500s:

Most people got married in June because they took their yearly bath in May, and they still smelled pretty good by June.. However, since they were starting to smell . …… . Brides carried a bouquet of flowers to hide the body odor. Hence the custom today of carrying a bouquet when getting Married.

Baths consisted of a big tub filled with hot water. The man of the house had the privilege of the nice clean water, then all the other sons and men, then the women and finally the children. Last of all the babies. By then the water was so dirty you could actually lose someone in it.. Hence the saying, “Don’t throw the baby out with the Bath water!”

Houses had thatched roofs-thick straw-piled high, with no wood underneath. It was the only place for animals to get warm, so all the cats and other small animals (mice, bugs) lived in the roof. When it rained it became slippery and sometimes the animals would slip and fall off the roof… Hence the saying “It’s raining cats and dogs.”

There was nothing to stop things from falling into the house. This posed a real problem in the bedroom where bugs and other droppings could mess up your nice clean bed. Hence, a bed with big posts and a sheet hung over the top afforded some protection. That’s how canopy beds came into existence.

The floor was dirt. Only the wealthy had something other than dirt. Hence the saying, “Dirt poor.” The wealthy had slate floors that would get slippery in the winter when wet, so they spread thresh (straw) on floor to help keep their footing. As the winter wore on, they added more thresh until, when you opened the door, it would all start slipping outside. A piece of wood was placed in the entrance-way. Hence: a thresh hold.

In those old days, they cooked in the kitchen with a big kettle that always hung over the fire.. Every day they lit the fire and added things to the pot. They ate mostly vegetables and did not get much meat. They would eat the stew for dinner, leaving leftovers in the pot to get cold overnight and then start over the next day. Sometimes stew had food in it that had been there for quite a while. Hence the rhyme: Peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas porridge in the pot nine days old. Sometimes they could obtain pork, which made them feel quite special. When visitors came over, they would hang up their bacon to show off. It was a sign of wealth that a man could, “bring home the bacon.” They would cut off a little to share with guests and would all sit around and chew the fat.

Those with money had plates made of pewter. Food with high acid content caused some of the lead to leach onto the food, causing lead poisoning death. This happened most often with tomatoes, so for the next 400 years or so, tomatoes were considered poisonous.

Bread was divided according to status. Workers got the burnt bottom of the loaf, the family got the middle, and guests got the top, or the upper crust.

Lead cups were used to drink ale or whisky. The combination would Sometimes knock the imbibers out for a couple of days. Someone walking along the road would take them for dead and prepare them for burial.. They were laid out on the kitchen table for a couple of days and the family would gather around and eat and drink and wait and see if they would wake up. Hence the custom of holding a wake.

England is old and small and the local folks started running out of places to bury people. So they would dig up coffins and would take the bones to a bone-house, and reuse the grave. When reopening these coffins, 1 out of 25 coffins were found to have scratch marks on the inside and they realized they had been burying people alive… So they would tie a string on the wrist of the corpse, lead it through the coffin and up through the ground and tie it to a bell. Someone would have to sit out in the graveyard all night (the graveyard shift.) to listen for the bell; thus, someone could be, saved by the bell or was considered a dead ringer.

Guess what!

Every time someone says ‘Guess what!’ I always tell them the rules to the game. I have three guesses and you can’t tell me what, until I either get it wrong or one of them is correct!

So think of the guesses that would come on this one.


Guesses as followed

  1. You saw a pink elephant riding on a purple pony, while carrying a rainbow umbrella and using a fairy as a hair clip on the way home? No?
  2. You sat down on the couch when you made it home, forgot that you had hid a tiger in the cuff of your jeans and it scratched you? No? OKAY! 1 more to go.
  3. You went to the kitchen to get a cup of water and when you turned on the water, oil came out instead? No?

Now, it is your turn. What?

Ah, so yes I am back! My computer crashed 3 months ago and I have just been able to get a new one! So welcome back Mother0fMany!

Try the guess what game. See how it works for you.

Happy Monday

Happy Monday everyone.

God has touched me in ways that I haven’t even discovered yet. I bet he has done the same for you. The ways I have seen are so endearing that they have taken my breath away many times over.

He gave me an amazing heart warming man in my life, 4 beautiful children, parents that loved me and an extended family that makes it all complete. He has given me so much more. I used to say it was more than I deserved until I sat down with a preacher and they told me this:

You deserve EVERYTHING God has given you. If you didn’t, you would not have it. The more you pray and give, the more you shall get. He believes in giving of the heart and soul. God is fair. If you love, then you will be loved. If you give, then you will be given too. Life is fair as long as you have the lord in it. Without him it will be hard. Believe and share.

So today I am giving to you. I am giving you my prayer and friendship. May god watch over you with all his mighty on this Monday.

In all Honesty:

I have been working for 17 weeks straight with pretty much not a day off. I have been either researching, traveling, seminars or doing web meetings to get a major up and coming psych hospital off the ground in Washington.


When I am not working, I am taking care to make sure my son’s home school program is correct and that he has all that he needs throughout the week. If I am in Washington, I webcam to help him with any problem through school. I am an on the spot kind of woman 24/7. I am teaching my daughters to drive, too. I have also continued my volunteer work at the VFW, Cancer Society, and the Prisons that need a program for transforming women that have been abused. I also am constantly traveling my daughters to work while coaching them on a daily lifestyle. Then we have my husband. I have been making multiple doctor’s appointments, fighting with his job to get workers compensation started, getting medical leave done on insurance, trying to get him enrolled in a college and fighting with him over it all.

Then in July, our car was totalled. That was a nightmare waiting to happen. I have never had to negotiate a car rental for a month, a payment option for someone totalling my vehicle and deal with 4 insurance brokers at the same time.

So after doing work today, I was thinking of heading to the gym. And that is when my husband turns to me from watching Netflix and said ‘What are you fixing for dinner?’

I think, I took a pause and then smiled. My husband backed away from the smile. I then burst into…..

You are My Sunshine, My Only Sunshine……

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He then backed up and looked at the kids and said

‘We are making mama dinner. Don’t question it! She is going to the gym and will come home to something good.’

And I did.

You Can Hate Me Now


You can hate me now. You have my permission. I am not an ecofriendly type of person. I recycle when I remember and more to the point of when I have time or ability. It cost me money to recycle in the area that I live. There is not a city organized ‘Green’ crew for here. And if we want to go ‘Green’ then it will cost either massive going out of the way or money for us. We drive the highway and to go to the plant availability. It is 11 miles going the other way. So that is dipping into my wallet.

I don’t look for makeup that hasn’t been tested on animals. Yes, I know this is sad to think about but I look for what can save me a little money. If I find that my makeup wasn’t tested on animals, I feel happy. I just can’t expense the energy to look into it before I buy it. I mean I am standing at the makeup counter with cash in hand.

I read the ‘Green Tips’ off and on. I am signed into a lot of these pages but when reality hits I don’t remember them. Don’t judge me. Just go ahead and hate me. It is ok. I am not happy with myself sometimes too. Just yesterday I was reading about ‘Green Tips’ on better Halloween outfits and decorations. So do you think I will go tomorrow and put it into my ideas on how to scare the snot out of the surrounding kids in the neighborhood? Probably not.

Earth Day? Ummm, yeah like that is a really a day? I know that it is preserved to give us a reason to get to know our ‘Green’ side but do I know when it is? Nope. Not at all. I believe God put it here for us. I just don’t know how to take care of it. I learned how with my kids and I am still learning with earth. I planted a tree one year for Arbor Day. The next year it died. I mow over that spot and remember the moment and backbreaking labor it took to dig that hole. Doubt I will ever do that one again.

Then, there is the admissions test to be done on my car every year. I am so proud of my city to put this into effect. To be honest, I moan and groan about getting it done yearly when I go to get a new tag. The price is not exuberant but that $9 I spend to get it done could get my family 2 more gallons of milk.

I could never be one of these people to save rain water. I envision trashcans with drainage pipes coming down into them. Then massive ponds or puddles of water surrounding each area. And then there is the stagnant water that comes into play. Mosquitoes scare me and they LOVE biting me.

They say swap out bulbs for energy efficient CFL’s. Have you seen the price of these bulbs? Have you done the personal study of how long they last? If one blows a week later, it is enough of a difference to make you crouch down in the shower, under a spray of water and cry. And here we are into my other water saving plan. NADA! I don’t have one. I drink my water from a bottle and refill it daily 8 or 9 times. That is a green way right? But I throw it away the next morning and get a new one. So, poof, that goes out the window of ‘Green’.

Park your car. Spend the day walking or biking to the places you need to go. If you are heading somewhere that is a bit far. Try public transportation! Can I say NO too many times? I hate walking unless it is on a treadmill. Me? Bike? Have you ever seen a whale get on two wheels to go up a hill? Fish out of water here! Public transportation….Can we say my car smells better than feet and farts. Yes I tried it once and learned that it was better for me and anyone else on the bus that I either stay home or take my car. I love people from afar but when I carpool I don’t want to have to wait on them.I want the convenience and availability at hand. How American am I?

They say it is so economical to make your recycled paper into ‘New’ paper. Save a tree! Have you EVER tried writing on the ‘New’ recycled paper? Have you seen the mess it makes to make new paper? I have! I will not ever do this again! It was a paper fail x 1000.

I am just me. I am a clean yard, non-recycling, minivan driving, makeup wearing mama. Sorry if it offends anyone. Okay I am not sorry really. I work for me and mine. I work hard. But don’t have the energy or money to put more effort into it. Want to pay for me to recycle? I will do it then, maybe. It is $67 every 3 months here. Just beyond my reach program.

I am happy if you recycle enough for both of us! Big pat on the back enough to make you choke!

Take control

I grew up to respect my elders. It wasn’t from a brief slap in the back of the head or a swat on the tail. It was because they respected me. My grandfather would take me fishing and talk to me for hours. My mother would read to me and teach me right and wrong. My Nana always had a gentle hand when I was around. There was not anything disrespectful towards me to where I respected them.

In knowing that, I will tell you this. My mom, grandfather, and Nana would have blistered my behind if I ever thought about doing what the students in Valdosta did to that flag. My grandfather, father, brother-in-law, father-in-law, son and family friends fought for the right to fly our flag with pride. They have given us the right to be able to have a free nation. Yes, they also fought for the right for those ‘idiots’ to desecrate that same flag. But I want you to understand that that flag is older than they are and deserves respect too. It is just that simple. If you wouldn’t walk on your grandparents, mother, father, sister, brother or friends just stop because you SHOULD NOT walk on our flag. It is old and has seen many more battles than you would ever want to see. Give it freedom to fly and show a lot of respect.

A little livid over this occurrence and feel that the motion to walk on a flag should be taken out of our actions. If you don’t like what is happening in our government then do something about it the right way. VOTE. Take control. Do it the right way.

4 Years Ago


4 years ago: a tornado took out many homes, businesses and churches. It killed many hopes and homes for us to rebuild. But we got out and formed new buildings and memories.

I remember sitting at the table with the candles lit and laughing with my kids over what we saw in the shadows that formed off the fire. I also remember starting the grill at 5:30 in the morning so that breakfast was fixed, bath water was started and our day began. We slept with the doors open to have some kind of cooling system throughout the night. My husband and I took turns sleeping so that we were awake with the door open. I also remember teaching my children about meatloaf burgers on the grill and sun tea that was drank with a passion. They still claim that it was the best burger and tea ever. That time was rough but we made the best of it. We shared our meal with our neighbor when the electricity went out and worried over our oldest son that had moved out 6 months before.

My family was thankful that I stock toiletries, food and household needs. They used to tease me for being overly prepared but at this time I didn’t get one teasing moment. They appreciated my stocking ability. The only thing we ran out of was ice to keep our eggs and milk cold. We even had enough to share with our town needs.

We grew ideas on how to live without things and gained in knowledge when we learned we were strong enough to get us through it all.

Mouthwatering Meatloaf Burgers

  • Meatloaf Burgers
  • 1+1/2 pounds ground beef (can use lean or ground chuck)
  • 8 ounce can tomato sauce (can substitute ¾ cup ketchup)
  • ½ cup quick oats or cracker crumbs
  • 2 eggs
  • ½ cup chopped onion
  • ⅓ cup chopped bell pepper
  • 1 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • ½ teaspoon black pepper
  1. Place a large skillet over medium heat while you prepare the meatloaf.
  2. Combine all ingredients in a large mixing bowl and mix with hands until well mixed. Form into 4 doughnut shaped patties.
  3. Place in heated skillet and brown on both sides, about 5-7 minutes per side. Add 1 cup water to skillet and continue cooking until juices run clear, about 5 minutes or so.
Serve on your favorite buns. Preferably topped with ketchup and slaw. Enjoy!

Drugs, my views and some facts

I am one of a few of my friends that has never done drugs. I have been offered them many of times but feel that it is an experience I don’t need. I am passionate on the ‘Say No to Drug’ campaign. I have gone out of my way with my children, to emphasize that drugs are bad and that they can have a good life without them.

Drug addiction is a biological, pathological process that alters the way in which the pleasure Memory impairment from marijuana use occurs because THC alters how information is processed in the hippocampus, a brain area responsible for memory formation , as well as other parts of the brain, functions.

Why would you want to alter any part of your brain? Why take the chance of putting impurities into your body that could take everyday management of your life away?
I want to be able to be in complete control of my body. I want to know that I am the cause of my happiness and not a drug. I want to remember all my memories. Memory impairment from marijuana use occurs because THC alters how information is processed in the hippocampus, a brain area responsible for memory formation.

Imagine not being able to remember your day to day affairs, what happened 2 years ago, or even a large memory like graduation, baptism, birth of a child. I would never get enough happiness from a drug to replace these memories.

Many people do not understand why or how other people become addicted to drugs. It is often mistakenly assumed that drug abusers lack moral principles or willpower and that they could stop using drugs simply by choosing to change their behavior. In reality, drug addiction is a complex disease, and quitting takes more than good intentions or a strong will. In fact, because drugs change the brain in ways that foster compulsive drug abuse, quitting is difficult, even for those who are ready to do so. Through scientific advances, we know more about how drugs work in the brain than ever, and we also know that drug addiction can be successfully treated to help people stop abusing drugs and lead productive lives.

Drug abuse and addiction have negative consequences for individuals and for society. Estimates of the total overall costs of substance abuse in the United States, including productivity and health- and crime-related costs, exceed $600 billion annually. This includes approximately $193 billion for illicit drugs, $193 billion for tobacco, and $235 billion for alcohol. As staggering as these numbers are, they do not fully describe the breadth of destructive public health and safety implications of drug abuse and addiction, such as family disintegration, loss of employment, failure in school, domestic violence, and child abuse.

What Is Drug Addiction?

Addiction is a chronic, often relapsing brain disease that causes compulsive drug seeking and use, despite harmful consequences to the addicted individual and to those around him or her. Although the initial decision to take drugs is voluntary for most people, the brain changes that occur over time challenge an addicted person’s self-control and hamper his or her ability to resist intense impulses to take drugs.

Fortunately, treatments are available to help people counter addiction’s powerful disruptive effects. Research shows that combining addiction treatment medications with behavioral therapy is the best way to ensure success for most patients. Treatment approaches that are tailored to each patient’s drug abuse patterns and any co-occurring medical, psychiatric, and social problems can lead to sustained recovery and a life without drug abuse.

Similar to other chronic, relapsing diseases, such as diabetes, asthma, or heart disease, drug addiction can be managed successfully. And as with other chronic diseases, it is not uncommon for a person to relapse and begin abusing drugs again. Relapse, however, does not signal treatment failure—rather, it indicates that treatment should be reinstated or adjusted or that an alternative treatment is needed to help the individual regain control and recover.

Why Do Some People Become Addicted While Others Do Not?

No single factor can predict whether a person will become addicted to drugs. Risk for addiction is influenced by a combination of factors that include individual biology, social environment, and age or stage of development. The more risk factors an individual has, the greater the chance that taking drugs can lead to addiction. For example:

Biology. The genes that people are born with—in combination with environmental influences—account for about half of their addiction vulnerability. Additionally, gender, ethnicity, and the presence of other mental disorders may influence risk for drug abuse and addiction.

Environment. A person’s environment includes many different influences, from family and friends to socioeconomic status and quality of life in general. Factors such as peer pressure, physical and sexual abuse, stress, and quality of parenting can greatly influence the occurrence of drug abuse and the escalation to addiction in a person’s life.

Development. Genetic and environmental factors interact with critical developmental stages in a person’s life to affect addiction vulnerability. Although taking drugs at any age can lead to addiction, the earlier that drug use begins, the more likely it will progress to more serious abuse, which poses a special challenge to adolescents. Because areas in their brains that govern decision making, judgment, and self-control are still developing, adolescents may be especially prone to risk-taking behaviors, including trying drugs of abuse.

Prevention Is the Key

Drug addiction is a preventable disease. Results from NIDA-funded research have shown that prevention programs involving families, schools, communities, and the media are effective in reducing drug abuse. Although many events and cultural factors affect drug abuse trends, when youths perceive drug abuse as harmful, they reduce their drug taking. Thus, education and outreach are key in helping youth and the general public understand the risks of drug abuse. Teachers, parents, and medical and public health professionals must keep sending the message that drug addiction can be prevented if one never abuses drugs.

In my opinion, drugs take away more than they give. So if anyone you know or you need help with an addiction please call for help.

If you’re suicidal, I recommend contacting the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline toll-free at 800-273-8255. Additional crisis and suicide hotlines are available in the category below, Crises and Suicide.

Need Immediate Assistance Online?

Try one of these free crisis chat services:


National Suicide Prevention Lifeline




AIDS Hotline
(800) FOR-AIDS

American Social Health Association: Sexually Transmitted Disease Hotline
(800) 227-8922

CDC AIDS Information
(800) 232-4636

AIDS Info: Treatment, Prevention and Research
(800) HIV-0440

National AIDS Hotline
(800) 342-AIDS


Alcohol Hotline
(800) 331-2900

Al-Anon for Families of Alcoholics
(800) 344-2666

Alcohol and Drug Helpline
(800) 821-4357

Alcohol Treatment Referral Hotline
(800) 252-6465

Alcohol & Drug Abuse Hotline
(800) 729-6686

Families Anonymous
(800) 736-9805

National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence Hopeline
(800) 622-2255


Child Protection Hotline (Los Angeles County DCFS)
Within CA (800) 540-4000
Outside CA (213) 283-1960

Judge Baker Children’s Center – Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 792-5200

Child Help USA National Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 422-4453

Covenant House
(800) 999-9999


Girls & Boys Town National Hotline
(800) 448-3000

International Suicide Hotlines

National Hopeline Network

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
(800) 273-TALK (8255)

National Youth Crisis Hotline
(800) 442-HOPE (4673)


National Domestic Violence Hotline
(800) 799-7233

National US Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 422-4453


American Association of Poison Control Centers
(800) 222-1222

America Social Health: STD Hotline
(800) 227-8922


Shoplifters Anonymous
(800) 848-9595

Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention
(800) 931-2237

San Francisco Sex Information:
(415) 989 SFSI

Teen Help Adolescent Resources
(800) 840-5704


Planned Parenthood Hotline
(800) 230-PLAN (230-7526)


Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
(800) 656-HOPE

National Domestic Violence/Child Abuse/ Sexual Abuse
(800) 799-7233

Abuse Victim Hotline
(866) 662-4535


National Runaway Switchboard
(800) 231-6946

National Hotline for Missing & Exploited Children
(800) 843-5678

Child Find of America
(800) 426-5678


Poison Control
(800) 222-1222

National Institute on Drug Abuse Hotline
(800) 662-4357

Cocaine Anonymous
(800) 347-8998

National Help Line for Substance Abuse
(800) 262-2463

Source: The Center for Mental Health in Schools


How much do you tip your Pizza Deliver Person?

The question of the day.

How much do you tip your Pizza Deliver Person?

What should come into play when making the decision on the Tip? Well, I will tell you this, I have Pizza Delivery and Pizza Artists in the family and they did not put any opinions towards this. There is no influence from the other side. Just my knowledge and information I have gathered.
You need to be aware of how the tip comes about on the routes.

Pizza Deliver Person

1. You are paying for their time, effort in kindness and detailed speedy delivery.
2. It is their jobs to check the pizza before leaving the designated choice of sales and getting it to you while still hot.
3. The ‘Pizza Delivery Charge’ IS NOT A TIP! PDC is the charge that is used by the Designated Company to support the need of Drivers. It is what they use to pay them the hourly wage and they do NOT always see that part. So please do not take the PDC into the equation when doing tipping.
4. It is their jobs to leave you with a good memory of service since they are the last face that is seen.

5 Tip Decision

Things that you need to remember when making the decision on a tip.
1. Was the order correct? Like did he/she remember your soda, extra dressing, that you paid with card and wasn’t trying to double charge?
2. Did they remember that you prefered being delivered on the side of the house or upstairs apartment?
3. Did they travel 15 miles or more just for you?
4. Did they call first before getting lost in an unknown suburb?
5. Smile? Hot? Good? Mmmmmm? Happy?

Knowledge of pizza

Okay, since you know these things or have learned them from just reading, it is time to tally up how to tip.
Let’s do knowledge of pizza. If you only have $13.11 for pizza and no tip. Do not order Pizza. You need the money more than they need the hassle of bringing it to you. Tipping is how they do their job. I suggest 20% of the bill. If your bill is $20, then start out with $4. And if you were happy with any of the 5 Tip Decision above, then add a few $$ to the pile. If you were not happy do not complain to them. Call the store! Let the manager handle it. That is why they get paid the ‘Big Bucks’. Also one other thing, remember that the happier that your Pizza Delivery Guy/Gal is the faster you will get it next time.
Now you know, my opinion.

2 Seconds


2 seconds are 2000 milliseconds….Imagine how quick that is. Snap your fingers and it is gone. Deep breath, it is gone. Blink 2 times, it has left your memory. But there is something that will stay in my memory forever. 2 seconds.

Ever just have that one moment, that changes your life? That one chance that is like a blink of an eye and takes everything and puts them into perspective? Well, my husband’s one comment he made to me has changed me from the very moment he said it. No it wasn’t the normal ‘I love you’ or the ‘Will you marry me’ comment. But I want to tell you the story of 2 seconds. Maybe it can make a change for you somehow, like it has changed me in the last few years.

Take you back a few years: (Shadows creep in and music plays gently in the back ground)

Married for 2 years at this point in my life. My husband and I were having a hard time of it emotionally. We were combining 2 households and at that time 3 children from split homes. Life wasn’t perfect. What life is? My husband was having a difficult transition ,to being a fulltime dad, instead of a weekend dad. I was transitioning into being a mother of 3 instead of 1. And then we were in process of being each other’s rock because we found out that 2 of our children were abused by a biological parent. (NOT US)  So court cases were thrown in, therapy visits allowed for, tempers were high, struggles were made and all we wanted to do was heal our children. And it was extremely difficult for us to get our bearings down to size.

Now this isn’t easy for a mother and a wife to say, so bear with me.

I was doing most of the transition at this stage and my husband being the laid back guy he is, he let me do it all. I had the feeling of being taken advantage of on most days. I always spoke my mind and felt that my husband wasn’t listening in this phase of our marriage. So this made even more of an impact on my way of thinking. I was getting frustrated. I would ask for help and was not getting any results on the help I needed.

Honey, I need the wicker cabinet moved to the living room.

Never got moved.

Please put the socks in the laundry bin.

Never was it seen again in a laundry bin.

Things like this, small things,were needed. It wasn’t just these but the numbers started to add up. I became depressed and felt unappreciated. I was working really hard and felt that nothing was occurring for help. I was getting really tired.

Now don’t go thinking that I am complaining. I am not!!! Things can and did change for the better. So stay with me.

I contacted a friend of mine that lives in Indianapolis. And one Tuesday when my husband was at work I had a friend watch the kids and I just up and left with a note saying:

‘Until I can get a moment of being me, I can’t come back to my hell I live.’

I left and went to work in a state I had never been in. I went to clean houses, sleep on a lumpy couch and rest. Almost the exact same thing working as what I was doing at home with no help or rest.

It took my husband 2 days to finally find me by way of modern times. He finally emailed me. And I agreed to message with him on MSN. We were talking through some of the things that really bothered me. And one was him not listening to me. But I guess in me becoming the invisible woman made an impact on him. Cause he was having to do everything I did on a daily basis.

Well, on the second night of us talking I had to go let the dogs in the kitchen door from going pee. I told him a single statement.

Give me a second, I have to let the dogs in.

His reply was

Take 2. They are small.

That is when I started crying because I missed him, my kids and my life. But in that one statement, I realized that I was not taking my 2 seconds at home. The one to take a breath and the next to take peace of mind. It wasn’t all him it was also me.

Yes, I eventually came home, the wicker cabinet was moved and the socks were cleaned up. And my husband became a better man, father and husband. I became a better woman, mother and wife.

So now I take those 2 seconds on many things I do. All life’s decisions and emotions. I ask myself one thing. Will it matter in 5 years? And if it wont then don’t fight for it. But if it will, Fight like hell.

So take 2 seconds ,because they are a small and make a difference in your life. I am not saying you have to leave to get this over all picture. That worked for our situation. I am saying that you need to figure out how to make your 2 seconds work. Figure out where your socks need placed, wicker cabinets are and how they need positioned. 2000 milliseconds can make a lifetime of struggles disappear.